INTJ wants

• Not seeming to notice or care about other people’s feelings when asking challenging questions
• Stubbornly insisting on an idea when the facts don’t support it

ESFJ gives

• Micromanaging others in their attempts to be helpful
• Difficulty succeeding in competitive or conflict-driven environments

INTJ wants

• Finding patterns and meaning in the world around them
• Developing an inner vision to guide their behavior and priorities
• Seeing things from multiple perspectives

ESFJ gives

• Building and maintaining good relationships
• Organizing the world according to their values
• Noticing and responding to the needs of others

INTJ wants

• Complex problems to solve
• Time to reflect before discussing situations or ideas with others
• Independence to plan and work through tasks on their own

ESFJ gives

• Practical help and support for others
• Stability and consistency
• Loyalty to their friends, colleagues, teams, or groups